I saw a post on Instagram the other day, which said something to the effect of ‘If you don’t manage to acquire that skill now, the one you always wanted but never had time for, then the real problem is you. #NoExcuses’.
This, frankly, angered me.
Yes, we’re all at home. Yes, it’s a great time to finally learn to draw, cook, get fit, finish that book… and if you aim to do that / are doing that, that’s great!
But even if you aren’t. If you can’t. If you don’t feel up to it for whatever reasons – that’s great too.
Nobody knows you and your circumstances like you do.
Maybe you’re struggling to balance office work, and cooking / cleaning / washing utensils and are barely left any time to breathe at the end of the day.
Maybe you have a lot of time but can’t get off that couch in front of the television.
Maybe it’s difficult to even get out of bed and face another day of this new reality we’re all waking up to, and frankly, struggling to accept.
I think the only thing that really matters right now, is that we learn to be a little more gentle with ourselves – give ourselves whatever it is that we need, to get through this, to be strong. You don’t need to live up to a random person’s expectations on social media. Given the circumstances, you barely need to live up to your own.
It’s hard enough by itself.
So just breathe. Try and be your strongest self. And get through this, whichever way suits you best.
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Guess social media make this time more difficult than it should have been !!
Yeah, I mean, everyone has different circumstances and different coping mechanisms – why make people feel worse about themselves when really all that is important is to get through this.
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I agree. So many posts saying then the problem isn’t that you have time, it’s that you don’t have any discipline. But the good thing is that I have seen an equal number of posts reiterating that it’s okay to not come out of this a pro at something. The sad part? Criticism sticks more quickly than positivity (WordPress just told me positivity is not a word).
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Yeah, I still feel bad about my half edited book or the paunch that’s growing. But I’m barely managing life at this point, and keep reminding myself that it’s okay to just about manage things and not achieve greatness at this time